There are two reasons for this blog post:
- This is something that has been bothering me and I’ve very recently experienced it for the 1741654684th time. I need to know if others have gone through the same.
- I would like different perspectives on this matter. Please don’t be shy to share your point of view. Boys, I’m lookin’ at chu.
Ok, here we go..
I’m a friendly girl. And I make friends very easily. More specifically, I make friends pretty easily with boys. You see, I’m kind of a man. Haha… ok well, not literally. But if you know me in real life, you probably know what I mean. So, here’s what usually happens: I meet a boy and we get along. We get along really well. Then, I start to think of this person as my friend, or someone I can talk to or hang out with. Until…
I can always feel it… the moment they ask, “Oh, how long have you guys been together?” I know what’s coming. I say, “Oh, (x) years!”, usually very casually. In short, I have a boyfriend; but not just any boyfriend, I have a “forever and ever” boyfriend. For the most part, the reaction I get is, “Oh wow… Uh, that’s awesome.” However, I have gotten the occasional, “…Oh”. But however way they initially react, it is only a matter of time until the friendship is over. Boy either stops talking to me completely or acts like I’m a different person after that.
Look, I understand certain guys are out there with the sole purpose of “hunting” or finding a hookup/girlfriend. Whatever. But… but…. I just want to be friends! I’m an amazing friend, probably have bigger balls than you and I make an excellent wingwoman. Sigh.
I brought this up with one of my actual good friends (who is also a boy) tonight and he said something like, “Well, obviously, he likes you. And when single guys find a girl they like, but then find out she’s not single… they don’t want to waste their time.” And to that, I answered… “But… Why can’t we just be friends?” Am I stupid for thinking this? Naive? Delusional? More importantly, is he right? Is this why boys stay away from me after they realize that I’m not “Open for Business?” Or is there some other explanation? What do you think?