Remember when I said I was a pretty private person? Well, I am.
For this reason, it’s been really hard to balance having a public blog up-to-date and still keep my personal life private. After all, plenty of my posts are Kind of Personal and I’ll tell you something – I really enjoy writing these posts. And I’ll tell you something else… many, many visits on my site are in that category. People like to creep me and my life (and that’s okay with me because I get to choose what to blog about). A rule of thumb I’ve had for myself is that if it’s a little more than “kind of personal”, it probably belongs in my private journal. And this method has worked for me quite well. But the balance of keeping your personal life private vs. still blog about your life is an issue I’ve been thinking about a lot lately as I started to get more viewers on this blog (and I thank you very much!).
I reached a turning point last night when I received an email from a reader and he said that he wished I could be more personable on my blog and be my candid self (not in so many words, though). I guess for this reason he said that he thinks I’m quite fake sometimes. He elaborated in saying that he didn’t think I should exclude my nights of “partying” out of my blog. “Why don’t you have any party pictures? I know you go out (….),” he said. Ok, bear with me and try to ignore the creepy factor of that line.
If someone I knew called me fake in real life… somebody-gonna-get-hurt… real bad.
Anyway, I wasn’t offended. I wasn’t mad. This person doesn’t know me personally, and if he did he’d know just how incredibly real I am (Oh man, now I sound like one of those people boasting about how real they are. Forgiveness, please).
To be honest, sometimes I feel a little sad that I can’t share more personal things with my readers. Just sometimes. Most of the time, I am glad that only a special few really know who I am. Although I commend the many bloggers who go above and beyond to give us the tmi of their lives, I just can’t be 100% comfortable with it.
So, here is my “callout” line:
Bloggers, how do you deal with keeping the balance between your personal life and blogging? Obviously it depends on your blog; I’d imagine business bloggers, or those with a niche, can provide an easier answer than those who do “lifestyle”. Please let me know in the comments or email me. Thank you!