From my private journal, to you.
June 02, 2011 at 4:08 p.m.
I started this as a Facebook status update, but then it wouldn’t post because it was too long. So, I decided to blog it instead and it got a bit out of control.
Mind flow… unedited so it might not make sense to you, but it does to me.
I sometimes have trouble remembering that some people are not as awesome as the rest of us…
Everyone lives different lives, they learn different lessons, are kept awake by different problems and are influenced by different personalities in their lives. That some people are closed-minded, immature, and often too proud to even listen to what you’re really saying. That to some people, being right is more important than anything in the world. That looking at the big picture is not in their intellectual capacity to achieve. That to some, bringing up issues from the past justify the way they treat you in the present even though they claim to have forgiven you. I would LOVE to say “love them anyway” like what those inspirational quotes say. But, I am still learning, too. I’m growing and I’m trying, but I’m not there yet. I wish I could say that it’s not their fault they’re that way. But I’d be lying if I did. Because I do think it IS their fault. No matter what happens in your life, you’re in control of it. I keep saying this over and over again, but I do that because it’s true: Things don’t just happen. People make decisions that bring them to where they are.
Stop treating people like shit because
you think you’re better than them because you know they’ll always be here for you. People treat some family members, some close friends or their significant others, like shit, because they know that person won’t leave their side. Be thankful and appreciative that someone loves your ass that much that they want to stay with you through all of your bullshit. Shouldn’t we be treating these people better, and not worse?
Get the fuck up off the floor and change your life if you’re unhappy with it. Instead of figuring out ways on how to get through your days, change them so you’re excited to get up in the morning. Start conversations with people who have different opinions than you do. Spend time with people you can learn from instead of people that make you feel smarter or better about yourself. Learning is harder when you’re comfortable. Listening is impossible if you never shut up. Listen to critisisms and be thankful for your friends that give them to you. Give your loved ones the benefit of the doubt when they say something hurtful, because chances are they’re not doing it for themselves but they’re doing it for you. Speak your mind, because your feelings and opinions do matter. Ask more questions. Stop assuming. Admit you make mistakes and don’t forget to apologize when you do. Ask for help more. Spend time by yourself to reflect. Apologize to those you hurt and show them that you mean it. But more importantly, show those you love that you do because words are just words and our time here is limited. Life is such a beautiful and complicated process, but there is one thing I know… and that it’s always too short.